Q:  My BFF is cool to me and our group.  She can be mean to people who don't hang with us, like make fun of how they act and what they wear.  She really upsets people.  She gets mad if I don't join in and diss the people, that makes me feel bad.  I really love hanging with her and we have all of the same friends!  What should I do?

Jenna:  Well for starters it's good to know one of you has a heart.  Making fun of someone to make yourself feel good is LOW - and a sure sign of insecurity. 

We've all been on the receiving end of nastiness for no reason and it sucks. 

You need to stand up to your friend and tell her that the way she is acting is not cool.  If she continues to behave that way you need to stop hanging around with her - or at the very least call her on her bad behavior. 

She'll have more respect for you, if you do.  More importantly, you'll be true to yourself.

TTYL,

Jenna

By Jenna Perette

Jenna Perette is SSW's twentysomething blogger. Formerly Wink webzine's "voice of tweens", she now gives us a glimpse into life as a "cougar cub". Read her fun blog, The Next JennaRation!